Quick to Friend

Online dating, it’s still a bit of a faux pas, but if you aren’t doing it then you know someone who is. By now I’m sure you’ve figured out that you’ve stumbled upon a blog of twenty-somethings figuring out their life in this busy city while adding in a bit of fun, and not to mention a few blind dates along the way.

Honestly, one of the best reasons for online dating is just a way to get to know people when you move to a new city – or at least that was my excuse when I found myself relocating to DC last fall. I needed to get out of the house and meet some men, so why not give online dating a whirl? Now with my main objective being to get a friend, not a male suitor, I too am quick to put a man in the friend category, you know, go on a few dates, have a romp or two, and then have the dreaded conversation “let’s just be friends”. Which, usually goes really well … or in some cases … I just stop texting back … I know, very naughty of me!

Anyway, back to the matter at hand, being Quick to Friend! I recently struck up a email conversation with a nice young chap in the online dating world, which shortly progressed to texting. All the while wondering “ok … all this texting is cool … but I wouldn’t mind getting a free cocktail out of this” (did I say free, I mean go Dutch … ya … split that bill …). Recently, he sent me a text about his dating profile, saying he was getting some special upgrade, but that he didn’t care he’d already met a great girl that he went on a date with yesterday, and then went into detail about their little romp in the sack. Now, by no means am I a girl who is all about being exclusive after the first date, but I don’t need details of your personal life. By the end of the texting conversation I had been told over text, you’re cool and I really like texting you but I was thinking we’d just be friends, and then a few minutes later told, I have tickets to tonight’s Nats game, want to come with? Are you really trolling dating websites to instantly put girls into the friend’s category and then later invite them out to ‘throw back a few beers’?

To all the men out there … we think this is just as much as a joke as you do, and rarely do any of us really see anything progressing out of it … but step it up at least hang out with someone once before you put them in the friend category.

OkStupid?